Goddess

[freespirit]

If you want to reach me from here on out darlin' you'll have to email me. In case you lost it it's ceilidh55@hotmail.com

*love and hugs*

[Francois Cellier]

Freespirit:

Please, don't leave. Your contributions to this board are refreshing. Just ignore those who like to insult. After a while, once they recognize that they don't get a response, they'll tire of trying and leave you alone. At least, that's what I do. It works pretty well.

[freespirit]

It means so much to me for you to say that Francois. I don't understand why, but their words and especially their attitudes hurt. Such disdain! I do not take being sneered at very well... obviously.

I've been very emotional even for me the past couple of weeks, and today... well, yesterday, techincally--the 23rd--is the 1st anniversary of my daddy's death. I didn't want to say this on Goddess's birthday thread... didn't really want to say it anywhere, but to hell with it.

Anyway, I'm sure my knee-jerk reaction has something to do with my inner turmoil... *shrugs*... (there ya go, boys, something else to ridicule) I was really looking forward to getting to know ppl here better, and the exchange of ideas is fun and educational. I just don't know if I can stick around here.

Sorry to say this, SirDigs, but if only there was an ignore feature...

Anyone who wishes to is welcome to email me at the above address.

[Dave]

Freespirit please don't let a few get to you. Mostly we are an easygoing bunch but alas people do get heated. This is the reason the US ELection Forum was created. As many threads were becoming personal and were effecting the World Events Forum.

I hardly ever venture into the US Election Forum as a result.

Anyhow a very belated welcome to P & CA and I hope you reconsider about posting here. :)

[goddesscon]

Tempe ....
Don't let the narrow minded chase you away from here...
It only goes to show you sweetie...that there are people in this world who need our help... they need us to show them that to hold such staunch views without questioning is silly...
Basically for me...I look at those types with a heavy heart and pity their wrinkling souls...
To try to debate with empty personal attacks...only goes to show they have no true arguement...
I know you can handle these types...
As for the passing of your father...I am truly sorry for your loss... My birthday was nice...and it still is a celebration of birth...even in the passing of someone you love... My thoughts of love and support are with you...
*HUGS*...
Think it through hun...but NEVER let those whose hearts and minds are so small gain any kind of power over you by chasing you away...
I still lubs ya hun!...

[Francois Cellier]

I am sorry about your loss, Freespirit. Feeling a bit edgy on the 1st anniversary of the death of a loved one is natural. It is actually even healthy. It is part of the grief process, of regaining one's balance.

My mom used to visit us every year for 5-6 weeks over Christmas. She flew in to Tucson sometime in December and went back home to Switzerland in January. In 1996, the trip evidently was too much for her. Three days after she arrived, her heart gave up, and she died at our house. She had been 84 at that time. Rather than being able to celebrate Christmas with her, I had to arrange for a speedy cremation, and then leave for Switzerland with the urn containing her ashes in my handback for the funeral services.

For a number of years thereafter, each time Christmas came around, my wife commented that I once again had "d'wienachtstüüchi" (the Christmas blues), because invariably, Christmas made me think of my mom.

Death is certainly the least pleasant of all aspects of life - as a psychologist would say: the ultimate insult to one's self, but it is still just that: an aspect of life, intrinsically associated with and inseparable from life.

[Happy Texian]

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This is now my upteenth year on the political discussion boards and there is most definitely one thing that I've learned - the hole that you leave in the ocean when you withdraw your hand is how important these things are that crawl around in these boards.

Hell, I've just been suspended from the primere political discussion board on the internet, Free Speech America, for telling them exactly what I told you in that first paragraph. Heck, I'd supposedly been banned for life from AOLs political discussion board - their children monitors could not understand my vocabulary. They thought pharases like pusillanimous punchinello was cussing.

So no, none of this is worth giving a bucket of warm spit for - save that for the next time you run into some lying ass politician.


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[freespirit]

Goddess... it is not the narrowness of their minds that causes me enough pain to want to leave, it is the contempt with which they treat others, especially thaanass. There is no excuse for treating people that way, and I won't put up with it.

Thank you for your love and support, I lubs you too.



Francois... thank you for sharing that with me. My daddy died of cirrhosis of the liver from alcoholism at age 59. His suffering was indescribably painful to watch. Immediately after his death, things went to hell with my stepfamily of only four years... I'll spare you all that. Suffice it to say that my grief and sorrow for my daddy is all tangled up with rage at my stepmonsters for the way they treated me. I feel that this is further complicating the grieving process. Then there's the anger/guilt cycle: anger at Daddy for not quitting drinking and killing himself and guilt for both feeling that anger and not doing more to help him. I know there's "nothing I could have done" and all that Alanon crap, but the feeling of inadequacy and sense of failure will not go away. And I have never hated being an only child more than I do today.

[sir digalot]

... the whole of texians post...

Gee and people think we are a badly run board.... :lol

freespirit, i feel for your pain, when my mom died, ( it will be the 2nd anniversay this coming april) i could not be there, not to help, and not for the funeral... the last time isaw her was when i left for the states and she was getting better....

i personally don't let the nasty people get to me, but then again i ma the insensative barsteward.. i let goddess handle all that sensitivity and spiritual stuff.

i prefer to think of these palces as a test bed for a psychology student...

and if i get real p.o'd at people i accidently screw the board up and bump em all off..


(oh damn did daavros read that.... ooops!) :lol :lol

[Dave]

and if i get real p.o'd at people i accidently screw the board up and bump em all off..

:rollin :rollin :rollin